Category Conduct

During the first years of life, children pick up everything that interests them without understanding that what they are doing is wrong or right. It is around 5 years when children have the concept of property and begin to understand what it means to steal. What reasons can lead children to appropriate something that is not theirs?

Children from an early age are permanently in a process of learning thousands of topics, a very important one is the one that has to do with behaviors that are acceptable and those that are not. One of our most challenging tasks as parents consists, precisely, of setting these limits for them that they will continually try to cross.

Have you ever heard of boiled frog syndrome? Sometimes, when we let a circumstance or behavior go with our children, it can end up causing unwanted consequences in their way of being or behaving. And, sadly, this is something more common than we would like. Here are some examples of situations in which children are victims of boiled or cooked frog syndrome.

Do children ever interrupt you while you're talking to other adults and don't stop bothering you until you ignore them? Afterwards, it is likely that what they had to tell you was not very important to you, but for them it was and that is why they wanted you to listen to them at all costs. It is usually caused by a lack of patience or by the desire to attract the attention of adults.

There comes a time when, no matter how hard we try to do the opposite, our children end up spouting the odd curse or insult. What to do when this happens, do we let it pass or correct immediately? As always, everything will depend on the age of the child and the intention with which he does it, the insult of the 2-year-old is not the same as that of one from 10.

There are many children who, when they are young, resort to violence to solve their conflicts. Does that make them aggressive children? Talking about child aggressiveness means talking about how your child will tend to resolve a situation that frustrates him or considers unfair by causing harm to others, either physically by pushing, scratching or kicking, or verbally with insults or words like dumb or bad.

With work and the daily routine it is sometimes difficult to find time to enjoy new and inspiring activities with our children. If you surprise them with little tricks that don't take a lot of time, they will be more receptive to tackling tasks and routines. For this reason, I would like to share some ideas that will help your little ones to live with more willingness and joy.

There are more peaceful and obedient children. Others have a stronger personality and tend to refute everything. It can occur from 4-5 years of age or when adolescence arrives. Something that does not have to be a problem as long as they do not use hurtful words such as & 39; You are bad / a & 39 ;, & 39; Do it yourself & 39 ;, & 39; I don't care & 39; ... If your child begins to answer improperly or by default first of all, don't despair.

The independence that little by little children are savoring induces them to try the limit of what is allowed. They jump, run, eat and dress themselves, and each day they rediscover the power of language. Saying tacos or curses is an example of this, especially when they share activities or a playground with older children.

Tantrums are a constant topic of interest in the lives of those of us who have children. As children grow, the way to show them and the reasons behind them evolve. And, therefore, our way of accompanying them must also be different. Here we focus on how to calm the tantrums of 7-year-olds.

& 39; I'm bored & 39 ;, & 39; I'm bored & 39 ;. How many times a day can you hear this phrase from your children? It may be that the days of daily with the school and the extracurricular ones do not pronounce it much, but what about the weekends or when you are on vacation? Doesn't he give you this detail of why children get bored and complain so much?

A boy or a girl begins to cry (no matter the reason in each case) and we hear their father or mother saying phrases like & 39; Nothing happens & 39 ;, & 39; Stop crying & 39; ... Often, We say these words with the best intention, that our children stop crying and, therefore, that they do not feel sad.

What happens when you cut or scratch yourself? You get a wound that hurts or, at least, annoying. Sometimes it bleeds, but it can also bruise or leave the skin red. Sometimes it is enough to wait a few days and this wound will be gone. However, when the damage is very great, a scar remains that accompanies us forever.

Frustration is an emotion that occurs when a person is motivated to pursue an end or has a clear expectation about something and encounters an obstacle that blocks that result or expectation. It belongs to the family of anger, in fact poorly managed frustration is the germ of very complex and intense emotions such as hatred or anger.

& 39; Why is my son so stubborn? & 39; This is one of the questions that parents have surely heard, shared or asked about their children. What can we do to control this behavior? Can this behavior be changed? If we start from the premise that children are not born stubborn, but rather they are made, there is no doubt that some educational circumstances are what they receive. they teach them and lead them to be stubborn.

Parents of 5-year-olds know very well that just as their children have evolved and developed new skills and achievements in all areas of their lives, tantrums have evolved with them; so the way to handle them must be different. On the one hand, the fact that they are older and can communicate better than when they were three years old makes it easier, but on the other, they are smarter and have already grasped our weaknesses by setting limits.

& 39; Follow your heart but take your brain with you & 39;, Alfred Adler, physician. The human being is designed to feel, we cannot stop doing it, it is something that simply happens in us permanently. This capacity to feel includes expansive, pleasant emotions ... and also includes those that contract us, make us suffer and lead to physiological sensations that are sometimes complex and unpleasant.

For a child, anger is like a monster that takes over everything in its path, an uncontrollable and very harmful monster. How to make a child be able to face this great monster? The psychologist Marina Martín created a game that helps the little ones to channel their anger: The anger box.

First of all, it is important to define what frustration is. Frustration is a feeling that arises when we fail to achieve our wishes. In these types of situations, the child usually reacts on an emotional level with expressions of anger, anxiety or dysphoria, mainly, although they also have physical reactions (we will see everything in detail later).

Outbursts of anger often come over a minor detail. A whim, a & 39; No & 39 ;, something that does not end up going well ... They are totally irrational outbursts of anger, we know, but they are capable of making us lose our nerves. When a child gets angry and & 39; locks himself up & 39; in their world, it transforms.